How to choose partner for life using your typology features? You already know that some people look for a partner that resembles him someone he knows. For example, his mother. Such phenomena is called model of family and it depends on the relations inside of each family.
How to choose partner. Model of family
More precisely, model of family is the relationship between people. Such relationship can answer the question “how to choose partner”, because it can predetermine the relations of all people. Such relations depend on such factors as: your ITT, ITT of your biological parents, ITT of your friend (or loved one), ITT of your friend’s biological parents (or loved one), temperament, abstract / concrete thinking. That is why we call it Model of Human Relationships or Family Model.
Description and tables on choosing a partner
1. Perspective. This relationship is easy to build. Partners can feel raging emotions all the time. Such relationship is easy and promising, especially when both partners see everything around in different colours and when they are full of love. In general, partners are doing joint questions and issues easily. Therefore, such relationship is good only for marriage.
In the case of friendship, work or business, such people are too picky, emotional and unconstructive in relation to each other. If married couple have some serious problems and negative causes that influence their relationship, they can easily stop their relation or brake it. After that, such people may hate each other. Their previous friendship and attitude will be not the same as it was before and it is difficult to save it.
2. Excellent. Is developing very fast. Sometimes such people notice each other much faster than in “Perspective” relations. Both partners like each other very much and protect each other. Sometimes, a one side of this relationship may feel a lack of something (in case, if we have distinctive sides). But this relationship may continue to develop or become stable. This is due to the fact that another side always needs a protection or guardianship from the first side.
These relations are good for marriage and friendship. Despite the other types, their relation is always based on conversation. Such people always discuss something easily and even when they argue, they usually don’t hurt the feelings of each other. They just have a fun together. In couples, where we have disctinctive sides, one side is always suffering when they are not close to each other.
The future of such relationship is promising. But if the couple decides to breakup with relations, nobody wants to be the initiator of this process. Therefore, such breakup may last for several years. After the breakup, both are offended. But at the same time they both realize that such decision was not spontaneous. But to be honest, they always want to renew their relationship again.
3. Good. Such people like each other. Their relationship is based on the efforts of one side (in case, if we have distinctive sides). These people usually don’t annoy each other, but one side sometimes may have a willing to educate another side and hit his or her weak points. They usually don’t feel mutual responsibility or obligation, that is why their marriage or friendship may not be so strong.
Usually they don’t register a marriage, because they both realize, that they have a little bit different life targets. When such people are on a distance, they aren’t afraid of it. Both sides believe, that their relationship may become better soon. They can learn a lot of new things from each other.
4. Medium. Everything looks good here, except the different life views. Each side insists on its own point of view and usually they do not inferior with the other side (if they are not family members). It has some difficulties. Even the small goals of one side are more valuable to them than the big goals of the other side. But despite of these difficulties, each side has a constant feeling of care towards each other.
5. Medium-low. Both sides have a feeling of tension and misunderstanding in their conversation. There are the moments, when the one side feels itself useless and empty after that. Such feeling may create inferiority complex, because one side doesn’t understand the other. Both try to find fault in each other and end their conversation for some period of time. One side has a constant feeling of guilt, but doesn’t realize the reason and the root cause of it.
Another side of the relations may have a feeling of responsibility towards that side, but a maximum what he or she can do is to remind about himself or herself. But another side usually don’t consider the purpose to renew such relationship, because he or she don’t have such a willing inside.
6. Hard. The one side usually doesn’t support the another. Due to this fact such relationship is not developing in terms of love. Partners can only be good in mutual business or work. They try not to hurt the feelings of each other, when they discuss everything constructively. They both can compromise, use mutual ethics and formal conversation style. That is the only feature of such relationship.
7. Very Hard. It is similar to “Hard”, but here both partners waste a lot of their emotions and energies even in simple conversation. The one side is exhausted and tries to be on a distance for some period of time. Usually their relation is short-term. This is due to fact, that both of them have feeling of rivalry and each side wants to be on top.
8. Unpromising. Both sides don’t have any mutual feelings towards each other, except superficial sympathy. Usually they try to avoid each other, because they prefer to communicate with people who are closer to them in spirit. That is why there is no hostility or friendship in such relationship.
But how to understand which one type of relationship you have with another person exactly? At first you need to find your ITT in a list, then temperament in table below and corresponding symbol:
DLST, DTCT, DCTT, DSLT, ALTT, ASCT, ACST, ATLT:
| Temperament | Symbol |
| Sanguine | /+/ |
| Phlegmatic | + |
| Melancholic | – |
| Choleric | /-/ |
ASLT, ACTT, ALST, ATCT, DCST, DTLT, DLTT, DSCT:
| Temperament | Symbol |
| Sanguine | + |
| Phlegmatic | /+/ |
| Melancholic | /-/ |
| Choleric | – |
Example:
Your ITT – ASLT. Your temperament is choleric. Your symbol is -. Your friend – DTCT. Her temperament is sanguine. Her symbol is /+/. Totally you both will have – /+/. Or your ITT – ASLT choleric. Your girlfriend is ACTT. Her temperament is melancholic. Your symbols will be – /-/
The next step is you need to know what types of ITT your biological parents have. Your ITT – ASLT and you have concrete way of thinking. For example, both of your parents are also having concrete way of thinking. Such people like you will always be tuned to those who have concrete way of thinking, because your parents have concrete way of thinking too. It’s like a family experience and relationships that you will always remember.
In total we have four options in family model relationships:
- Concrete person who has concrete biological parents. Let’s call this person “C”
- Abstract person who has abstract biological parents. Such person will be “A”
- Concrete person who has one parent of concrete and one parent of an abstract way of thinking. “C*”
- Abstract person who has one parent of concrete way of thinking and one parent who has an abstract way of thinking. “A*”
Let’s have a look on a table that shows the relationship of two persons and answers on how to choose partner. People who have Concrete way of thinking, both displayed as (CC) have concrete parents too. Two persons, who have Abstract way of thinking (AA) – they have abstract parents. And two persons (C*A*) – both have concrete and abstract parent, given their temperaments:
| CC or AA or C*A* | Relationship |
| + /-/ | Perspective Relationship |
| /+/ – | Perspective Relationship |
| + + | Medium Relationship |
| + /+/ | Hard Relationship |
| + – | Good Relationship |
| /+/ /-/ | Good Relationship |
| /+/ /+/ | Medium Relationship |
| – – | Medium Relationship |
| – /-/ | Hard Relationship |
| /-/ /-/ | Medium Relationship |
Let’s check the other tables:
| CA or C*C* or A*A* | Relationship |
| + /-/ | Good Relationship |
| /+/ – | Good Relationship |
| + + | Hard Relationship |
| + /+/ | Unpromising Relationship |
| + – | Medium-low Relationship |
| /+/ /-/ | Medium-low Relationship |
| /+/ /+/ | Hard Relationship |
| – – | Hard Relationship |
| – /-/ | Unpromising Relationship |
| /-/ /-/ | Hard Relationship |
| A*C or C*A or C*C or A*A | Relationship |
| + /-/ | Excellent Relationship |
| /+/ – | Excellent Relationship |
| + + | Medium-low Relationship |
| + /+/ | Very Hard Relationship |
| + – | Medium Relationship |
| /+/ /-/ | Medium Relationship |
| /+/ /+/ | Medium-low Relationship |
| – – | Medium-low Relationship |
| – /-/ | Very Hard Relationship |
| /-/ /-/ | Medium-low Relationship |
Remember! This is not a recommendation for you on how to choose partner for the life like in paradise or your dreams etc. You will feel all the difference in your real relationship with someone by yourself, because everything we were mentioning here are the real facts and logical scheme, that was built on these facts. There is no ideal relationships for human. All human relationships may be stressful. The difference between human relationships lies only in level of human mutual understanding, emotions, level of stress and personal comfort.
In case if people don’t want to be involved in love relationships, but want to have only business relationship, the only relationships that are ok for that are “excellent relationships” and “good relationships”. The other relationships are good for work only if both of you work on the same job under the same director, not as independent partners or business owners. In this case all relationships can be ok for mutual job cooperation, except “very hard relationship”. Now, I hope we have answered the question “how to choose partner for life”.
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